Off Duty Mom, On Duty Complainer
Let’s talk (and by “talk,” I mean “complain”) about education.
So, I’d like to outline my list of complaints about preschool, specifically. And, no, I do not plan to wait for Superman here and get all judgmental about our country’s teachers and the state of educational efficiency nationwide. I do not plan to spew hatred for the millions of men and women who’ve devoted their lives to helping to raise our nation’s youth. I do not plan to pretend to know ANYTHING, really, about the inner workings of early childhood education and therefore I do not plan to pretend as though I know EVERYTHING about it by suggesting that things like merit pay, standardized tests, de-unionization or de-tenurization might “fix” the “broken” educational system in the United States. I do not plan to turn this into a bitchfest about how cruddy our schools are and about how we “deserve” better for our kids.
Instead, I just want to crab about my experiences with choosing a decent preschool option for my kid. I shall offer no advice, solutions or thoughtful ideas here. Only whines. You can decide to stop reading now if whining ain’t yo thing.
First, I’d like to moan about how many public school systems have opted not to offer preschool at all. I live in a nice neighborhood with a nice school system. It’s one of the reasons why my husband and I selected the place. But, they start with Kindergarten, not Pre-K. So, I had to set out to find another option for my little guy.
Second, I’d like to complain about how I didn’t realize that I’d have to start the process of finding this preschool program so damn early. I began my search when my older son was 2 1/2 years old. It was January and I was searching for a viable option for him for the following September. He is now nearly 4 and I’ve STILL not heard from one location where we had been waitlisted well over a year ago. We were also waitlisted from our #1 choice, a Montessori school very near to our house (which, by a stroke of luck, our son got into only because someone moved away). The little guy did, however, get into a private school that required a $500 non-refundable deposit (which we paid and which, incidentally, was INDEED not refundable…).
That private school was a fabulous place and our son would have done well there. And, it would have cost about as much as my freshman year of college cost my parents.
This is not, interestingly enough, the reason why we opted not to send our child there. The convenient location of the Montessori program was the deciding factor, but nevertheless, what preschool can cost is pretty crazy.
The school system for which I work offers a tuition-based preschool option for those of us who work for the district but live outside of it. The program costs $700 per month. And, it runs only 6 hours per day. Of course, I work more than 6 hours each day, so that $700 cost is just the beginning as I would have to find childcare and transportation for my child, too.
So, the nanny costs me $15 each hour regardless of whether one or both of my children is home. She will gladly take my older son to and from school, but by the time all of this is said and done, at $15/hr. for 10 hours per day (8.5 hour work day plus commute — assuming I NEVER have to go in early or stay late…) that is $750 each week for childcare, or $3000 each month or $36000 each year just for someone to look after my children (not that that is an easy job; but that just only begins to cover all of my family’s needs). Then, with the cost of tuition-based school at my public institution, that takes me to almost $43000 for one year of my child’s education and care together. That, too, is more than my private college education cost for one year when I attended
back in the dark ages in the 1990’s.
I did not ever consider sending my son to a daycare center that offers “preschool,” because (and I imagine I will get angry comments about this — bring it) I do not consider this to be real school. I have visited many of these locations and have asked to see a curriculum. I have yet to visit a daycare center that was able to produce a curriculum of any type, or even really explain to me exactly what benchmarks they intend to help kids reach. The closest I got was at one place where they told me that kids will sing and learn numbers and letters. Great. At 2 1/2 my kid could already count to 20 and sing his A-B-Cs, so that wasn’t really fucking helpful.
Homeschooling is absolutely not an option, either. First of all, my husband and I both work, so it might be a little hard to fit that in to either of our schedules. Second (and I may get angry comments about this one, too…), I personally think that homeschooling is bullshit. I spent about 12 years teaching high school literature. I was really good at it. This does not in any way make me an expert on Science, Technology, Mathematics, Spanish, French, German, Italian, Physical Education, or any of the other subjects I would want my child to have the chance to learn such as Digital Photography, Music, Painting, Industrial Arts, Sewing, Graphic Design or Health. Yes, yes, yes – there are lots of resources out there to assist people with homeschooling and kids can even attend field trips, participate in local schools’ sports and communicate with other homeschool students through technology. Whatev. I believe in traditional education. There is a reason why I spent 8 years earning multiple degrees and certifications to work effectively with young people. It all made me QUALIFIED to teach.
Squeezing a human out of your vagina doesn’t a teacher make.
I know NOTHING about how to teach someone to read or play nicely or understand the water cycle. So, I will leave that up to the experts. When my kids are ready to talk about William Shakespeare, Richard Wright, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, George Orwell and Sylvia Plath, I’m all over that. Until then, I want to be a homeschool teacher about as much as I want to be (or think it’s a good idea to be) a home-doctor or home-dentist for my kids.
And, now I am back to the beginning. Preschool is expensive and hard to find. There are more kids on this planet than schools to fit them. We do not value early childhood education nearly enough in our society. And, most frustratingly, at THREE YEARS OLD, my child’s schedule is already causing stress.
So, there you go. Ranty rant rant.
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